Dear Internet,
This is to all the girls who have ever been hurt, who have ever thought they weren't good enough, who have ever been let down, who have ever had their heart broken, who have ever been lied to or cheated on, who have ever felt like they had no one they could talk to, who have ever felt depressed or worthless or frustrated, who have ever wished they could turn back time. If you are a girl and this has never happened to you, you are either very lucky or you are lying to yourself.
Boys suck.
There are good guys out there, but they're awfully hard to find. Unfortunately, most guys are jerks. They toy around with girls' feelings, they're shallow and egocentric, and they think they're the shit. And they're fucking EVERYWHERE.
If you've ever been hurt by a guy like that, it's not your fault. It's his. Be mad at him. It's okay. Don't do anything illegal, but do talk about your feelings. Let it out. Scream if you have to. Physical activity, such as aerobic exercise, is a great outlet as well. Don't keep that anger, that hurt, locked up inside. Let it out!
Think about yourself. Think about those that love you the most- is it your mother? your best friend(s)? a teacher? Whoever it is, make a list of all the compliments they've ever given you. Think of the best compliments you've ever gotten. Bask in that glow.
Ladies, I don't care if you're black or white, thin or curvy, nerdy or popular, tall or short, blonde or brunette-- whoever you are, however you look, you need to realize that you are beautiful, and you deserve to be loved. If a boy doesn't love you truly and deeply, he doesn't deserve you. If a boy pushes you around and takes advantage of you, he doesn't deserve you. You deserve way better than that boy. You deserve a boy who will listen to you, who will pay attention to you when you need it most, who will accept all your flaws and tell you in his own way, every day, how much you mean to him.
Boys are funny that way-- sometimes it's flowers, sometimes it's kind words, sometimes it's standing up for you, sometimes it's holding a door open-- but if you look, there are little things he will do every day to show that he really loves you. That's how you know he truly loves you. You are precious to him. He will treat you as the treasure you are. True love heals. It nourishes. It makes you glow.
No matter how much the boy who broke your heart meant/means to you, the fact is, he broke your heart. He was probably a jerk to you in a thousand different ways. He's not worth it, honey. I know you're hurting right now. But you need to realize that love does not hurt you. Love heals you. You need to let it go. Move on. Find the one who really loves you.
It is my firm belief that everyone, everywhere, regardless of gender, ethnicity, physical appearance, or any other defining characteristic, deserves to be loved.
And girls, never underestimate the value of friendship. Keep your friends close at all times. Talk to them about your problems. They want to help you. The more you confide in your friends, the stronger the friendships will grow. You can depend on your true friends. Never forget that.
VAGINAS UNITE!!!
FYI. Boys can get hurt to. The challenge is to find the apple that is the right one for you before you upset the apple cart.
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